A Shy Girl's Survival Guide

1) Be yourself. So what if you’re a little shy. If people get to know you, they’ll find out that you’re actually a pretty cool person! Let your hair down and just be real with people.

2) Step out of your comfort zone. What comes easy to some might be extremely difficult for others. We all have our limits of what we’re comfortable with. Just remember that character growth comes from stretching yourself.
 
3) Self-image. How do you view yourself? You are treasured and sacred! When you start believing it, this attitude will overflow into your actions. 
 
4) Carry yourself with confidence. “For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love, and of self-discipline.” (2 Timothy 1:7). Confidence is an attractive quality in any person. It shows that you’re comfortable in your own skin.
 
5) Shift your focus onto other people, rather than yourself. The less you criticize your every move, the easier you’ll find it is to open up to people.
 
6) Be approachable. Look up and smile! 
 
7) Initiate conversation. Don’t be afraid to make the first move. I’ve learned the best way to make a friend is to be a friend. If this sounds really unnerving to you, start by talking with the cashier at the store. You’ll find that once the conversation is rolling, most people will be responsive to a kind word.
 
8) Listen. Have you ever gotten so caught up in what you’re going to say next that you totally missed what someone else said? I find that if you actually listen to what others say, your response will be much more genuine.
 
9) Ask questions. Most people love to talk about themselves. Ask “why” questions and you’ll start to see the intricate dimensions of someone’s personality.
 
10) Find common interests. When getting to know someone, it really helps to find some common ground. Maybe you both love the same band... or maybe, just maybe, they’re as big of a nerd as you are about superheroes! Chances are that you’ll find something you both love to talk about.
 
11) Stop the people pleasing. It’s frankly exhausting trying to be who the world wants you to be. It’s so much more freeing to simply be who God made you to be. Find what makes you unique and let it shine.

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